Is it a question of attitude?


The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.  Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.  It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do.  It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill.  It will make or break a company… a church… a home.  The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.  We cannot change our past… we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way.  We cannot change the inevitable.  The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.  I am convinced that life is 10% of events that happens to me and 90% of how I react to those times!  Therefore, it is with you… we are in charge of our Attitudes.  Charles W. Swindoll

When I first read this quote, I passed right on by it.  A few days later, I came upon it again, reread it, and finally realized what I should have seen before!

I stopped to think about my attitude and how my outlook for the day is formed and if it ever changes during the day, what either format means and if there was anything I should do about making sure I carried with me the best possible reaction to the events in my life.

Usually, I awaken in the morning very early.  This is a hold over from when my Mother was alive, but now I treasure that time because it is my time to think, write or do whatever I like on the computer.  It is a time that is always in the darkened room.  It is always quiet and affords me the ability to write in privacy!  While I am at the computer I have a small cup of coffee and if it is one of the days that sleep has eluded me then the coffee does no good, I still feel like sleeping, I nod often and soon realize the best thing to do is go lay down!

When I first awaken and during this private time, I am one of those that do not wake up to well.  Two hours can pass and I will still be in a cloudy state.  Yes, I can write and develop what I am writing, but if I need to really think, or function, I am not too good at it at this hour.  I have always been like this in the morning, quiet and possibly, you would think I was in a dreamland, which I may be.  Regardless, I feel I am innocent in premeditated actions because I just could not plan a thing until much later.  When I worked, I always responded the same way when I got up.  So often, then, I repeatedly told myself everything would be fine once I got in the car, because I knew I needed to face the day as soon as possible.  After arriving at work I still needed my time…everyone knew that and usually, unless a crisis set in, everyone respected that time.

At home, during my state of reverie I may go about straightening things up a little.  I may move a comb, a knife or a sheet of paper, all in grand innocence, yet those are the things that annoy M the most.  If I do move them, I am chastised and there fore, at that moment, my Attitude is negatively forned for the day.  Possibly, the phone may ring and the caller may also perturb me or even the cat can bring me from cloudy maze to arched eyebrow disdain.  These ill-received words received may cause my attitude to be less than stellar for hours.  I can, unintentionally, brood during that time.

When I finally read Swindoll’s quote I sheepishly thought, yes I do have a choice.  I can allow a sarcastic question/statement to send me lurking about in dark moments or I can tell my self that it is not worth having them affect my attitude for the whole day.  I think he makes sence wben he writes that events happen to you each day but they only comprise a small percentage of your life, as compared to how we react which can be a much higher percentage of getting it wrong.  So if life (my happiness and good will) is 90% of how I react to the events in my life then I had better start making respond positively, rather then letting my attitude travel south into a not so happy place.



6 thoughts on “Is it a question of attitude?

  1. Frank: It is so true, but it is so much more easily a philosophy than an consistent action, isn’t it? We try so hard to tell ourselves that we won’t let people or things upset us, but it seems like something or someone often does, usually at a vulnerable moment.

    I agree that attitude is probably everything, but I am still learning how to NOT react in negative ways. It takes great discipline, as well as optimism. Some days I pull it of, some days I don’t. But I keep trying, and it’s nice to be reminded that this should be a constant goal in our lives.

    Thanks, Sparkle


    1. Sparkle, I don’t know for sure if you should stop your attitude from going south for all things. You also can gain strength from that negativity………….its kind of weird because if you don’t let the memories of your mother bother you then you can deal with them and in so doing if they make you grumpy then that’s a good move to keep going in the right direction!! Take care Sparkle, Frank


  2. Frank,
    Thanks for sharing Swindoll’s quote. He has such a gem in that statement.

    I, too, have early rising as a left over from caring for Dan. It is another “gift” that he has given me and I am able to cherish it.

    I am like you. (who would have guessed that one?) I have to get up about 3 hours before I think about getting ready for my day. Everyone thinks I am “nuts” because I get up that early, but I do not function so well until I have about a pot of coffee in me.

    I know that I must have my wits about me when I do get to my clients house, so I must be totally “awake” and this is what it takes to get me there.

    I am still adjusting to having so my time for me and me alone. That has never happened before in my adult life and I realize that my day is what I make it.

    I can get on a negative tangent if I am approached with negativity, but like Swindoll says, it is up to me and me alone to determine if I will let this, “Steal my joy”…

    That phrase impacted me so much when I first heard it years ago…I forgot about it until you wrote this post. I am resolved to not allow anyone or anything to “steal” this precious commodity from me anymore.

    I need “joy” to do my job, to survive this loss and, most importantly, to keep my health…

    Thanks, again, Frank, You did it again. You brought joy to my face and a lot to think about…

    “Think Spring!!!”


    1. Hi–I think we could meet, spend time together and never need to speak our preferences because they are so similar we would just feel them!! The early morning hours are precious now and I am sure I will continue them as long as I awaken. There is something about that time that allows me to be calm. I think it is important for you and me to not allow those strange looks of people who don’t understand effect us anymore. My dear friend in Phoenix has been the one person who, during and after a break down of mine the other day, looked as she felt the pain and understood it. She is like that, and I think it is her Hindi Faith that allows her to look within herself to understand others So many people would understand or be willing to do that.
      Take care Shadowlands..Frank


  3. Frank, I love this quote from Chuck Swindoll and am so glad you posted it.

    I have been thinking about you and wondering how you’re doing. I’ve missed you on Facebook and see you haven’t posted here in a while. You are in my thoughts and prayers, my friend.

    You have my email address, feel free to get in touch with me at any time. I hope you are doing well.



    1. Dear Lynda, no I haven’t written here since these last posts. I felt that the top had burned out in my head and I didn’t know what to do. So I’m just leaving it sit. I have written things for Fourchance and am trying to keep that up. And, yes also I have not been on anything that much…..struggling to write and to continue on with all my stuff but there are some days I just don’t want to. Facebook becomes a little overwhelming at times!!! Thanks for the visit and I shall let you know when I am on facebook. My best Lynda, Frank


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